This weekend has flown by, as have almost all the other weekends in recent memory. It’s a flurry of grocery shopping, cleaning up the house, visiting here, going there and before you know it, we’re back at a Monday again.
I try to have a basic “Who’s on First” plan for each week that consists of mapping out all our various schedules and aligning dinner menus to them. But invariably, something will switch up at the last second, and then we’re scrambling to juggle the pieces into some sort of order again.
It’s a permanent sense of flexibility — and it’s exhausting.
Personally I like order. It speaks to the German side of me — the part that likes bath towels to be folded into thirds so they stack in the linen closet neatly and prefers the toilet paper to unfurl from the top of the roll rather than underneath it. (Yes, yes — it’s slightly OCD, but honestly, if we could all agree to the TP thing, the world would be a much nicer place).
All this reacting, reacting had just about worn me out and left no time to do the things I really wanted to do. Because by the time I had a moment to turn my attention to them, I was too tired to give them much more than a regretful sigh.
Sound familiar? i think most parents are running this gauntlet, just trying to get from point A to event Z without forgetting to pick up one of the kids in the process.
Today, though, is the perfect day to slow down, put the minivan in park, and focus on some of the bigger issues. It’s Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, ‘What are you doing for others?’– Dr. King
Last year, in honor of Dr. King, I noted 5 service projects that could help break that reaction-cycle. They are fairly easy to do — some can even be done if you’re trapped in the house by frigid temperatures or the flu
All of them, I realized, can help me look beyond the moment’s “emergencies” — e.g., “Mom, we’re out of the good cereal again!” — and rediscover that sense of purpose. Hopefully, acting with intention to be of service to others is just what I need to find a bit of balance in our ever-more-topsy-turvy schedule.
Happy MLK Day!
Are you trapped in that cycle of reacting to the kids and activities and work and even dirty laundry too? How do you slow things down?